Friday, January 20, 2006

Marriage in Islam - An Introduction

Marriage in the dictionary is explained as the name given to when a man and a woman "formally unite for the purpose of living together". In Islam, it is an act which is given great importance both from a religious view point and a social viewpoint.

The subject of marriage is vast and contains many topics; these topics include:

01. If one chooses not to marry or is unable to get married.
02. When to get married.
03. Love marriages, arranged marriages and force marriages.
04. How to choose a suitable spouse.
05. How to get married.
06. Leading a happy, married life.
07. Rights & responsibilities of the husband.
08. Rights & responsibilities of the wife.
09. Etiquettes involved in a married life.
10. Upbringing of children.
11. Responsibilities towards one's children.
12. Marrying more than one wife (*new*)

Marriage is an act which completes and encompasses the many teachings of Islam. It has been thus narrated in a Hadeeth that when a person marries, he has complete half of his religion and so he should fear Allah regarding the remaining half.

Shame, modesty, moral and social values and control of self desire are just a few of the many teachings of Islam. Furthermore, these are just a few of the many worships that a person can complete by performing the ritual of marriage. Through marriage a person can be saved from many shameless and immoral sins and through marriage he has is more able to control his desire. Therefore, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has said:

"O young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry,
for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty."

[Saheeh al-Bukhari]

The creation of mankind has been made such that man requires a spouse to complete all that a man requires. Whilst Adam (Alayhis Salaam) was in Jannah he felt a particular loneliness and in response to this loneliness Allah Ta'ala created Hawa (Alayhas Salaam) as a companion for him. This clearly shows that Allah chose women to act as a companion for man and so that they can remove that loneliness and live in harmony. Allah has created our spouses from a part of us. It is a bond that is created by Allah Himself so that we can find peace and tranquillity within our spouses.

Allah has stated in Surah al-Rum:

"And among His signs is that He has created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may dwell in tranquillity with them;
and He has put love and mercy between you.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect."

[Surah al-Rum - 30:21]

In conclusion, it is simple to deduce that marriage is a form of worship as well as a social necessity. We have been asked to increase the Ummah (followers) and the only permissible way in Islam is through Marriage.

Marriage is a strong oath that takes place between the man and women in this world, but its blessings and contract continues even in Jannah.

Marriage is the way of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam), and whosoever goes against this practice has been reprimanded.

Hadhrat Anas ibn Malik narrates:

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said:
"Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven."
Then one of them said: "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever."
The other said: "I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast."
The third said: "I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever."
Allah's Apostle came to them and said,
"Are you the same people who said so-and-so?
By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you;
yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women.
So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (from my followers)."

[Saheeh al-Bukhari]

Therefore, Islamically, we are all encouraged to get married and not turn away from the ways of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Salaam).

It should be remembered that this duty of marriage is for both men and women. Just as men complete half their religion through this act, it is also the same for women.

Insha Allah, other topics will be discussed soon. If there are any other topics under the topic of Nikaah/Marriage that you would like to be discussed please leave a comment.


Ahmed said...

Jazakallah for that introductory and beneficial post. Looking forward to future ones on this subject.
Hope all is well with you.

ajnabi said...

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

Jazakallah khair for that beneficial post.

Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Brother Ahmed

Jazakallah for the comments. Nice to hear from you after quite a while. Hope all is well with you.

Make Dua that I manage to write up the other posts as well.

Remember me in your Duas.


Jazakallah for the comments. Insha Allah the posts will continue.

Remember me in your Duas.


Ahmed said...

BTW I forgot to put your welcome to come by for khajur pani!

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah Ahmed Bhai for the offer. It's one that I can't refuse. You should be careful putting up an open invitation like this on my comments box, or you may have have loads of people trying to get hold of some Khajoor and Zam Zam :)

Insha Allah will call you later this week before I come see you.

Dua meh yaad.


Azreen said...

hey! thats not fair! (bro ahmad is it??) im comming for khajoor and pani too! lol!

Anonymous said...

I had a question I've been wondering on the topic of finding a suitable partner for marriage. I remember hearing a hadith on how a person is married for 4 things - beauty, wealth, family status, righteousness, but that a believer should give preference to righteousness (or something to that effect). My question is that of the 4 things, beauty, wealth and family status are things that can be seen straight up (generally). However, the one thing a person cannot know - what degree of taqwa another person has - is what we're told to look for. Yes of course there are obvious things such as a person drinking or gambling, etc that are indications. But assuming none of those exist, how do you know another person's taqwa. I saw this because i recently had my Nikah broken off as the guy decided he no longer felt like marrying me. This guy seemed God-fearing, spoke about the importance of taqwa, etc. but turned out to be someone who is unkind, unjust and materialistic (at least it seems so, Allah knows best). Thus how do you know. Yes Istikhara is a way, but I received good signs in istikhara - which I believe means God wanted me to go through this. But back to my question - how can you judge a person's taqwa - how can anyone judge whats in another person's heart for that is where the taqwa resides.

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum Sister Anonymous

Jazakallah for the question and Insha Allah I will answer the question in either one of my posts that I am already preparing or I shall make a special post to cover the question that you have asked. If you have any futher questions please do not hesitate to ask. Insha Allah, if possible I will try and provide the answers as best as I can.

Please remember me in your Duas.


Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

I have written a brief post on Salat-ul-Istikhara. Insha Allah I will answer your question directly in the next post.

Please remember me in your Du'aas.


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